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Are you looking for a book on coping with grief that speaks to your heart?

Does your ocean of grief feel too large, and your boat too small?


Wide My Ocean, Deep My Grief


“A gentle, personal guide through the uncharted waters of the grieving process”!


A book that:

-provides company, understanding and
  hope for your grieving journey.  

-will help to normalize and name your
  feelings. 

-gives you ways to reclaim your power while
  travelling through the uncharted waters of
  what feels like a bottomless ocean. 


This personal guide through seven stages in the grieving process offers you these things through the means of poems, story and reflections meant to provide hope and encouragement through your grieving journey. 


From: Bev Swanson
Mon Oct 4th, 6:23 AM

Dear Friends and Fellow Travellers.

Today I invite you on a journey of healing and unfolding.  My name is Bev Swanson and this invitation is for you to share in our story of hope.   Let our story bring relief as you journey through the deep, deep ocean of your grief.

Whether you are currently going through a grieving process or know someone who is, this book and my connection letter may be of interest to you.

TO KEEP YOU COMPANY AND BRING YOU HOPE

I am no stranger to the experience of grieving.  Although my experience is mine and yours is yours; I have chosen to share with you some of my grieving place.  It is my desire that in the sharing of this time together you may find some company and in that company some hope.


NO STRANGER TO GRIEF

As a counsellor, I have walked many a winding road with friends and clients who are grieving.  My greatest learning came with an experience that literally shook our world.  I always knew that grief was a deeply tearing pain.  When our baby daughter was taken from us at a very early age I experienced this tearing pain on a much deeper level.

Regardless of my significant professional knowledge in this area; at times it felt almost impossible to go on.  Suddenly tossed into the angry cold waters of grief, I was a deeply grieving mom with a broken heart and a tremendously difficult road to travel.

Here one day...gone the next...

..thrown..into deep icy waters.
....a world  shaken...
 forever..different

This pain....known before
now KNOWN...
differently....deeper...personally

My constant companion... now ...my grief...
I wake with you... I breathe with you... I end my day
....with you...I sleep.
.... tossed into the deep, deep ocean of my grief...



REACHING OUT FOR WAYS TO COPE

Our own grieving process made me more keenly aware of what people desire and need during this time in their lives.  It became clear our desires were few in number but were very specific.  During the grieving experience, as we now know, people become hungry for:

*  the company of others who have been through this before and “just know” how you feel.  This helpful presence of people can be either in person or through their writing.

*  ways to normalize, name and feel your feelings without judgement.  Safe places are needed not only to BE with your pain, but also to be HELD while in your pain.

* some sense that you are not going to feel this way forever, therefore some hope for your future.

* the right to live this process as you need to and to give yourselves the permission to ignore a whole bunch of rules around what you should or shouldn’t do.

* ways to honour your loved one and feel closer to them when they feel so far away.

* ways to cope with your tremendous pain.



HOW TO HELP THE PERSON WHO IS GRIEVING!

My main purpose for birthing this book is to be present to people who are deeply dealing with a loss.  However, if you are journeying with one who is grieving; hearing our story and my reflections will give you a very clear picture of the stages of the grieving journey.  So if you are one of those who wishes to gently journey with someone in their grieving; entering these pages will be of help to you, too.

Many people want so desperately to help but feel helpless in the midst of so deep a pain.  One of the most commonly asked questions by friends and family is:  “How do I travel this road with them?”  It is so difficult to know what to do or how to be, when someone important to us experiences so much pain. 

This book will help you, as a companion to better understand what to do or better yet, how to BE present in their pain.  Some special insights have been included at the end just for you...as a bonus.

THERE ARE NO RIGHT ANSWERS - ONLY GOOD CHOICES AND GENTLE UNDERSTANDINGS.

The reader of this gentle book will not find right answers to the above needs.  For there are no right answers -  only good choices, patient reminders and gentle understandings.  As I seek to be present to your process, you are invited to do the same.

A Testimonial from a Grieving Soul

Hi, my name is Patricia and my dear husband died almost two years ago from cancer.
My loss has changed me forever.

I have been extremely blessed to live in a community of caring friends and have drawn on the support of these people frequently. Among those people is a former colleague of my husband and now a dear friend of mine, Bev Swanson.

Since she had experienced the devastating loss of her infant daughter the year before she quickly identified with my grief. She knew, I mean really knew how I was feeling. She also grieved the loss of her friend and colleague when my husband died.

I felt so safe with her. I journeyed with her these past several months as she prepared to make her two books available on her web site. I have both books. I never knew someone could write with so much understanding and compassion. Much of what she expressed mirrored so much of what I was dealing with.

There is still so much mystery around why her Jayde and my Hal had to leave us, but we don't always have to know the answers. There is much sacredness and peace in that...

I am truly blessed,
Patricia


A HEALING BOOK OF COMFORT, COMPANY AND HOPE - HELPING YOU TO COPE

It is my wish that, in the sharing of this book you will find comfort, company and hope.  Ways will be found to honour your process so that you can choose to walk intentionally into your healing place.  You will be able to better cope with your grief.  Understand how to be with your feelings while avoiding “being victim” to the experience that death has brought you.

If you are travelling alongside someone who is grieving, you will have a deeper understanding of what your companion is dealing with.  You will be better equipped to journey with those who grieve.

UNIQUE COMBINATION OF EXPERIENCE AND KNOWLEDGE

My vast knowledge of grieving created by walking with clients and friends, coupled with my own experience provides a unique combination.  This unique perspective has proven to be helpful to those grieving deeply. 

My earth shattering experience has since empowered me to operate at a significantly deeper level of presence to and understanding of others who grieve.  This is the unique place from which I can offer my presence to your process through my writing and sharing.

THE BIRTHING OF A BOOK

The writing of this book has come naturally but not always with ease as it brings up the pain of our loss once again.  This book has been in process for a couple of years now.  It is as though the feelings and experiences have been waiting deep within me, almost as if I were pregnant.  They have grown, formed and found root; yet the words have waited, until now. 

Now it is time to give birth to this book.  Now it is time to release my thoughts, ideas and experiences into the world.  Now it is released to you who hurt so deeply;  in the hopes that my sharing will help.  A guide to a path of healing, comfort, hope, and new life; that is available to any who are open to it.

Interestingly, the other day I opened my journal to a place I was writing last June or so.  I was writing of the importance of opening to what I was to do in life and making room for what was next for me.  I said in the very next entry and I quote:

“I still want to write a book and speak our story to help others ---- but first I will help myself to be open to my God.  The rest will come–I believe that even the means to follow my call to help will come—it won’t even feel tiring–but now it does so now is not the time.”

Here I am one year and a bit.. and sharing with you has not felt one bit tiring... it is time now.


A BOOK OF THE HEART - SHARED THROUGH POETRY, STORY AND REFLECTION

This is a gentle book of the “heart”.  There is no point to bombard you with a bunch of detailed information that you would be unable to take in at this point.  Instead you will find the very accessible sharing of poetry, story, personal experience, and professional reflections. 

You will find many helpful ways to cope with your grief.  You will find the path to embrace and honour your process tucked in and around the stories, poems and reflections.  In addition, you will find some company and understanding to aid in your process.

THE DEEP, DEEP OCEAN OF OUR GRIEF

The grieving process closely parallels a journey through the uncharted and very rough waters of a deep, deep ocean filled with unknowns.  We certainly experienced it as such. Waves of emotion are continually washing over you and sometimes if feels as though they will drown you.

Other times the sun seems to come out as if to mock you. Suddenly you are once again washed over by terrifying waves of emotion tumbling you again into the depths of the cold icy waters.  These depths at times feel so deep that you fear you will never find your way to the surface again.


image of book, titled Wide My Ocean, Deep My Grief

SEVEN STAGES IN THE GRIEVING PROCESS

I have chosen to divide the stages of grief into 7 parts or places.  These seven stages of grief, lead you through the deep, deep ocean of your grief in a metaphorical way. 

Each chapter deals with an important part of the grieving process beginning with a poem, followed by a piece of our story and summed up with a few gentle reflections on this part of the process.


The chapter headings are as follows:

Bon Voyage - ”The Final Goodbye”
     Speaks to the difficulties faced in imperfect farewells and our struggles with those realities.

Shipwrecked - “The Tearing and Wrenching Few Moments and Days Just After...”
     Speaks of the feelings, frustrations and confusion during these days.

Riding the Waves - ”An Emotional Roller Coaster“
          Speaks to the washing over of deep (and what feels like uncontrollable) feelings and how to Be with them.

Getting our Bearings -  ”Settling into our Grieving”
       Speaks to moving intentionally into our grieving.  Finding ways to grieve and heal that are helpful while being fully present to the process.

Harbor Days - “Bittersweet and Special Days”
       Speaks to the difficult days of celebration (eg. anniversaries) without our loved one.

Shipmates - ”Our Companions on the Journey”
       Speaks to the importance of having good companions to travel the journey with us.

Finding Dry Land - ”Living with Death”
       Speaks to the place where you are choosing to live in the middle of the void of your loss and to once again choose to dance in the land of the living.

In Closing - ”Some Final Hope-filled Thoughts”       
        Tributes, concluding comments for your journey, and a final poem.



NOT BEING A VICTIM TO GRIEF AND LOSS

It is so very hard not to just lay down and die with your loved one.   I wanted so badly to just give up on life. Yet life is a choice.  The hardest choice is to make the choice to live and dance when every bone in your body wants to quit and every step feels like a hundred tons.  This book will encourage you to keep on breathing.  Keep on stepping.  Keep on choosing life.  Keep on dancing, your way to healing.

USE THE BOOK AS IT BEST SERVES YOU

I offer these reflections to you from my heart, my experience, and my knowledge.
It is my belief that this book will be gentle enough for you to pick up as you can and put down as you need.  You will find important pieces to your healing process in it.  You will find ways to cope with this deeply painful process in the deep, deep oceans of your grief.

WHO WILL BENEFIT FROM TRAVEL IN THESE PAGES


Grief and loss are a part of each of our lives.  Sometimes it takes the form of the death of a precious child or partner or parent or friend.  Others struggle with the loss of an unborn baby or one who is stillborn. 

For some the loss is past history but the deeply painful emotions were frozen in time and suddenly come to life years later.  There is the loss of a pet, which for many is tremendously painful.  It is my view that no matter what your loss, your pain is deep.  You will find within these pages some comfort and ways to cope with your painful experiences.

If you are not personally experiencing a loss at this time and are travelling alongside someone who is grieving, there is great value in this book for you.  You will have a deeper understanding of what your companion is dealing with. 

You will be better equipped to journey with those who grieve,  potentially including yourself at some point in the future.

HOW DO I PURCHASE THIS BOOK??

As I tried to decide what to charge for a book of this nature I realized that it is really very important to me that no one miss out on the chance to read it  because the cost is too high.

Many people cannot afford an hour of private counselling at upwards of $90 per hour. 

Therefore I have decided to discount the purchase of this
"healing  book of process" down to only $29.97!



BUT THAT IS NOT ALL..

Along with the purchase I have included some extra SPECIAL REPORTS to help you further in your process.  With your purchase I have included the following ADDED COLLECTIONS  in response to some of the needs that seem to pop up during this process of grief.

I have compiled some of the following thoughts and ideas to further help you cope with the grieving process.  These are four areas that are very important to the healing process and are often areas people find themselves struggling in. May they also be of help to you.

FIRST...  21 WAYS TO EFFECTIVELY JOURNEY WITH SOMEONE WHO IS GRIEVING
[Gives some suggestions to you who are travelling alongside a grieving soul some things that are very helpful to a person in that place.....many ask me the question in desperation,  How do I help them?  This list is definitely only a start.. It will get you thinking in the right direction and you can add to it for yourself]

SECOND...11 CREATIVE WAYS TO HONOUR AND REMEMBER YOUR LOVED ONE
[When someone you love is taken from you...you never want to forget them.. but it is hard to know just how to remember them well.  Sometimes our heart just needs ways to hold them close by honouring their importance to us in our everyday lives.  I have found some ways that have been helpful to us and others to share with you.  This section should get you thinking of others ways to honour them as well]

THIRD...10 WAYS TO NURTURE A MARRIAGE AFTER LOSING SOMEONE PRECIOUS
[It is a well known fact that grieving a death of someone close, especially a child can be very hard on the marriage relationship.  It has the potential to make it stronger or break it apart.  The statistics for marriages that end after the loss of a child are staggering.  Your marriage is well worth intentionally nurturing during this time.  There is no point in losing that loved one also through divorce.]

FOURTH....17 WAYS TO NURTURE ONE’S SELF WHILE IN THE HEALING PROCESS
[ The last thing anyone feels like doing when grieving deeply is bothering with self nurture, yet it is so important and it does help the process.    Self nurture helps you feel a bit better in the moment and a lot better over the long haul.  We need this body and soul to help to heal us and to help us to live fully when we are ready to move on.  In addition the last thing a person needs while already hurting is added physical pressures]


FURTHER TO THIS... I OFFER YOU A SPECIAL GIFT, A COLLECTION OF POETRY FOR THE GRIEVING SOUL...to comfort and give voice to your experiences.

"I have compiled a collection of four poems that speak to the depths of this great ocean and the importance of the healing process.  Some of these poems speak to the questions and experiences I have had since our daughter left us.  Perhaps they will help you find words for your experiences too."

These poems have come from a larger book of poems that I have written called Openings and Closings.

"I chose out of this book four of the poems that speak about dancing, breathing and our precious gift of Jayde. These are my gift to you.."


TO DIE OR TO DANCE...[A challenge to the heart that feels like dancing but choose instead to enter into the dance against every desire ]

I HOPE YOU DANCE...[A poem written and dedicated to our Jayde.  What we felt her challenge to us was after she left us]

BREATHING...[A brief poem that talks of healing breath]

OUR GIFT...[A very special poem, although brief reminds us profoundly what our young daughter taught us in her so brief a stay in our home]

"May these gifts from my grieving heart give voice to some of what you feel."



AND IMMEDIATELY AFTER your successful order, you will see a web page where you can IMMEDIATELY download an e-book version of this book at NO EXTRA CHARGE

(in addition to all the other included free gifts listed above).


The secure username and password to access this e-book version will be emailed to you within 24 hours after your successful order. So be sure to type your email address very carefully, when you order, so you can be reading the e-book version on your computer, right away, while the print version is being shipped to you.

Immediate Help is truly available to you, right away after you order, with all the free helps listed above, including this amazing and TOTALLY FREE e-book version of the print book.



A Testimonial from a Grieving Soul

"Wide My Ocean, Deep My Grief" touched my heart and is a valuable read for those paying the cost of love--grieving.

Bev Swanson�s deep sharing about her family�s loss helped me better relate to my mother�s feelings about the loss of her daughter.

The writing is vivid, powerful and guided me to uncover some of my previously unaccessible feelings of pain, sadness, anger, healing, and love connected with the loss of my sister.

Steve Spataro
Los Angeles, California




And a GUARANTEE...


Should you find this book not to be helpful in your process at all or not to your expectation; I offer you a complete 100% money back guarantee for a full 90 days.  My only request is that you give me some idea of how I might have been better able to help you.

IF YOU FEEL THIS BOOK MAY HELP YOU IN YOUR JOURNEY....carefully follow the directions below..in order to purchase it.

For your healing journey,
Bev Swanson
Pastoral Counselor/Teacher


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P.S.

Breathe..Breathe.. Oh grieving one.
this moment to the next...
into the deep, deep ocean of your grief

Breathe..Breathe....Oh crying one...
through your pain..deep within your soul.....
into the deep, deep ocean of wide grief

Breathe..into depths of ocean deep
breathing deeper, deeper, deeper...
Until breathing  breathes you  to back to life
to dance the dance of living...
once again on firm dry land...
with sun on face and warmth in heart

and pain transformed and ready
now to dance the dance of living



BLESSINGS ON YOUR JOURNEY


If you are reading  this book and are walking with a grieving friend or relative.. I wish you grace as you journey gently with them. May your reading make you a better companion

If you are reading this book as a professional seeking help to understand your clients better; may these reflections and experiences aid you to be present in the best way possible during such difficult times.

If you are reading this book in the midst of a deep ocean of grief; it is my deepest wish that you find peace, comfort and hope for your wounded soul amongst these pages.  May you find many gentle ways to honour your process.  Blessings on you as you journey through these difficult days toward your healing.

If we dare to notice, we are part of an aging society; unfortunately it is only a matter of time before you will appreciate the support and company shared within this book.  If not yet, then unfortunately soon, either you or someone you care about will appreciate a book on grieving that speaks to your heart.

Wide My Ocean...Deep My Grief
“A gentle, personal guide through the uncharted waters of the grieving process”

 This Book:
-provides company, understanding and hope for your grieving journey.   
-will help to normalize and name your feelings.  
-gives you ways to reclaim your power while travelling through the uncharted waters of what feels like a bottomless ocean.  

This personal guide through seven stages in the grieving process offers you these things through the means of poems, story and reflections meant to provide hope and encouragement through your grieving journey.  

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